Swinging — where couples agree to have sex with other people while staying committed to each other — might sound exciting or adventurous to some.
It promises new experiences, meeting different people, and exploring physical connections beyond your usual relationship. But according to one married couple who actively live this lifestyle, it’s not all fun and games. There’s one big downside they’ve pointed out — and it’s not what most people would guess.
Social media creators Bella and Jase, who regularly share their swinging experiences on TikTok and YouTube, recently opened up about a surprising issue they face: the cost. While people might assume that jealousy or emotional struggles would be the hardest part of swinging, Bella explained that money is actually one of the biggest challenges.
She said that most people don’t realize how expensive the lifestyle can be. There are fees for club memberships, entrance charges at events, drinks, hotel rooms, and even swinging-themed vacations, which can cost a fortune. On top of that, she mentioned the need to always look your best — which means spending money on outfits, grooming, and other personal care to stay attractive to potential partners.
Bella and Jase have been in the swinging scene for a while and often give advice to others who are either new to it or looking for tips. They’ve even shown what it’s like inside “playrooms” on adults-only cruises, giving people a peek at what to expect.
Their comments sparked mixed reactions online. Some people were surprised by how expensive the lifestyle is, while others questioned why swingers don’t just keep things simple and host get-togethers at home with friends to save money.
At the end of the day, swinging might offer some people excitement and variety, but it also comes with real-world costs — and not just emotional ones. For Bella and Jase, the biggest downside isn’t drama or insecurity, but just how much it hits the wallet.
