My husband is a good man, but he’s not sweet in bed. It’s been 7yrs. But I don’t think I can continue this marriage anymore

I can’t tell him because I don’t want to hurt his feelings or damage his ego. Actually, a year after our marriage, I reconnected with my ex, whom I dated in secondary school. We didn’t break up; distance separated us, & our relationship eventually soured. We started seeing each other again,  this has been going on for 6 yrs. Honestly, I only reunited with my ex to satisfy my sexual needs, He’s actually good in bed but later on, I realized I still love him & he truly loves me too.

However, leaving my husband is difficult & complicated. He’s been kind to me & my family. The thing us, When I met him, I had just lost my dad,. Life was challenging for us. But he helped my family, sponsoring my brother’s visa & trip to Canada, supporting my education, rented comfortable  house for my mom, & started a business for her too. Thanks to him, I graduated & became a nurse.Truth is, I once genuinely loved him, but now sincerely, I’m with him out of pity.

I love my ex deeply & he’s the father of our 3 kids & we want to get married.  I sincerely know that I’m doing wrong. But i honestly can’t help it. He’s a good man & my conscience is kllln me. It’s better i leave so he finds someone that genuinely loves him back. But i don’t know how. Pls help me. I need guidance – how do I make my husband understand all of this without hurting him? At 33, I deserve a fulfilling love life, including my sexual needs, which is obvious, I’ll never find with my husband. Pls i just don’t want to stay in marriage out of pity “